pretty spot on…
8 - the Asserter you chose AY - your Enneagram type is EIGHT (aka “The Challenger”).
“I must be strong” Asserters are direct, self-reliant, self-confident, and protective.
How to Get Along with Me • Stand up for yourself… and me. • Be confident, strong, and direct. • Don’t gossip about me or betray my trust. • Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side. • Give me space to be alone. • Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don’t flatter me. • I often speak in an assertive way. Don’t automatically assume it’s a personal attack. • When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that’s just the way I am.
What I Like About Being an EIGHT • being independent and self-reliant • being able to take charge and meet challenges head on • being courageous, straightforward, and honest • getting all the enjoyment I can out of life • supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me • upholding just causes
What’s Hard About Being an EIGHT • overwhelming people with my bluntness; scaring them away when I don’t intend to • being restless and impatient with others’ incompetence • sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it • never forgetting injuries or injustices • putting too much pressure on myself • getting high blood pressure when people don’t obey the rules or when things don’t go right
EIGHTs as Children Often • are independent; have an inner strength and a fighting spirit • are sometimes loners • seize control so they won’t be controlled • figure out others’ weaknesses • attack verbally or physically when provoked • take charge in the family because they perceive themselves as the strongest, or grow up in difficult or abusive surroundings
EIGHTs as Parents • are often loyal, caring, involved, and devoted • are sometimes overprotective • can be demanding, controlling, and rigid Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy. Discover the 9 Types of People. Harper: San Francisco, 1994, 161 pages